The Small Group Experience
Many participants worry about the small group experience.
Will I feel uncomfortable? Will they force me to talk? Is it safe to share? Will
the people in my group be weird? What if I cry? Will anybody be in control? These
and many other questions are common concerns of participants.
It is our goal to make the small group experience a positive
fulfilling, growing and healing experience for all participants. Your group will
be guided by trained facilitators. These facilitators have all experienced the loss
of a love relationship and have taken the workshop themselves. They will guide the
group and keep it safe for all participants. Many participants feel uncomfortable
in their small group at first, this is normal. The barriers drop very quickly as
stories are shared and the commonality of our experience is recognized. The people
in the group will, at first, sometimes seem "weird" but as the group shares
stories and feelings, a connection is formed that overcomes first impressions. Some
of the people that may seem "weird" at first could become close friends
by the end of the workshop. In the small group, everyone is given the opportunity
to share, but no one is ever forced to share. Each participant always has the right
to "pass". the safety of the small group is governed by the "Small
Group Covenant" and the "Group Rules". We take these rules and covenants
very seriously - especially the rule of "Confidentiality".
What it is—
A support group IS a place to experience loving
and caring community, to be open honest and vulnerable, to be non judgmental and
accepting, to validate and encourage and to extend the hand of empathy and understanding.
A support group IS a safe place to share feelings experiences and stories. It IS
a place where it is safe to cry as well as laugh. It is a place to learn together,
to grow together and to find healing and hope together.
What it is not—
A support group IS NOT group therapy, NOT counseling, NOT
a lecture by an expert, NOT a place to give advice or to "teach" or "preach",
NOT a place to "fix" people, NOT a place to change or convert people,
NOT a place to criticize, to judge, or to minimize pain.
The purpose of the recovery small group is to provide appropriate
support and encouragement to members as they process their pain while allowing each
individual to take responsibility for their own recovery. Recovery groups are made
up of individuals who are working towards their own recovery with the support an
encouragement of others. Recovering people NEED to take responsibility for their
own recovery, to realize that their progress is up to them.
- To provide a safe place for members to discover, express, and process painful
feelings related to the end of their love relationship.
- To help members understand that other people have experienced similar feelings
and problems and that they are not alone.
- To help members experience a sense of hope and healing.
- To help members form new community and meaningful friendships.
- To equip members with some basic tools, skills, and concepts that can help them
build healthier and more fullfilling relationships in all areas of their life.